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https://plural.cafe/@devin/109647329871170072
- yes i'm fem yes i'm boy no i'm not femboy
- no personal issue with its use in sexual fantasy and porn category because hi, though conflation of trans women
    with gnc men and crossdressers is a systemic issue there. those categories can get really blurry and the popualrity
    of femboy as a self-identification for a lot of people on feminizing HRT is a testament to that, but i hate how
    the cisgender eye views trans porn and misgenders trans actors to lump them in with whatever category is in style
- but the cultural context i have for it is from /lgbt/ on 4chan (thanks high school us)
    - not going to go into message boards' favorite "traps" (pre 2014-ish) now "femboys" (post 2014-ish), several of
        which are canonically not men (e.g. astolfo) or are obviously written to be trans women by a writer who doesn't
        know what they're doing (e.g. ferris, especially in the novelization)
    - tied up deeply in passing politics where you're passing or you're a "hon", and femboy as the fallback identity
        for those scared of not being able to pass
    - the way i navigate transmisogyny is not my gender identity i just *am* a gnc boy on estrogen